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Advice and Consent: Delilah Wood's Blog 
“…..that’s the thing that most people need to hear – to get a simple reassurance that they’re normal.”
And then there r people who need to hear they’re not normal at all. Others, yes they do exist, don’t need to hear anything reassuring or whatever. They just thrive on their “kink”, don’t even consider it “kink”, but simply live life according to their passion(s).
Considering all the (online) discussions regarding all the problems, guilt feelings, identity confusion, taboos, being victimized by vanilla society, and what more, which seem inevitable when feeling attracted to d/s, femdom, and “kink”, one could almost believe, we, the other people, don’t exist at all. But we do. Oh yes 🙂
L’Chaim!
Well, sure, there are lucky folks who live the life and love it without pain (or at least, not the bad kind).
The squeaky wheel gets the grease, after all, and it is human nature to gather the talk around the difficult cases.
I’m not so sure this has to do with luck. Could it be they r less impressed with what other people think of them? If one would be lenient enough to call it thinking of cors.
Human nature? Tricky concept to say the least. I mean, given the variety of behavior displayed by what we were told r humans, and how/what, among other things, they come to believe what should be a problem and what not, i think it’s more to the point to call it human culture, subculture, so on.
My point was that human brains have evolved to focus on the negative, and that which gets talked about, online and elsewhere, tends to be the problems around an issue rather than its joys.
All of literature works this way, too; you don’t get a story without some kind of conflict.
As far as what each human culture things is a problem or not, well, that’s the reason activists exist. It sounds like your technique is “being the change you want to see in the world.” Enjoy!
Psychology Today: “Your brain is simply built with a greater sensitivity to unpleasant news.”?
Correction: No it’s not that simple! The individual brain, in order to survive, to safeguard its potential, and to keep its functionality at least at a minimum, is constantly adapting and adjusting its processes to the paradigms in force in a certain society. Sometimes benefitting from it, sometimes suffering from it. Mostly tho, cloning what it is taught by already cloned ones. Some smartasses, to make this more acceptable, r calling this culture transfer.
The article in PT is a nice example of, what actually is the product of culture, is credited to human nature.
That our brain is more “attuned to negative news” has more to do with the theory of scarcity, than its presumed genetic blueprint. We, as the (economically) privileged ones on this planet, could start living according to the principles of the theory of abundance instead. Once we do, it’s my bet, the brain will adapt to that, adjust itself once more, and the alleged impact of negativity on it will crumble to negligible proportions.
The brain is just another piece of our organism, and, whatever its biological set up, can easily be messed with. More than anybody else, we both know that eh?
““being the change you want to see in the world.”? Nah, not really. It’s just that i can’t stand it when potential, talent, and passion, r killed by some anonymous authority, which was/is created and kept by alive by the same people that say they’re fighting it.