Sorry for the long hiatus; holidays, Martian death flu, and all manner of other drama have kept me from this page. Hoping to remedy that and crank out more regular material. Ages ago, a friend asked me how I manage privacy online. See, I have a few online identities. Some things I write are public, [...]
Posts Tagged ‘the me guide’
Identity management
Posted in Explainers, Philosophizing, Sexuality, tagged communication, evolution, the me guide, things we don't talk about on January 14, 2010 | 1 Comment »
A reminder: Topologies
Posted in Alerts, blogs, tagged links, the me guide on December 16, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I’m writing in two places now. Go check out Topologies for the viewpoints of me and two other fab dominant women on what it means to be dominant and female.
Bad, bad dominant
Posted in Sexuality, tagged gender, kink psychology, objectification, polyamory, switching, the me guide, things we don't talk about on October 25, 2009 | 5 Comments »
Someone just friended me on Facebook whom I haven’t seen in a while: an adorable, pigtailed, somewhat gender-queer boy I’ll call Paul. Paul is younger than I am, very smart, but generally demure around me in a way that drives me crazy. In that good way. Looking at his picture, I’m reminded of a certain [...]
Switching
Posted in Sexuality, Smut, tagged anal sex, power exchange, switching, the me guide on August 19, 2009 | 3 Comments »
I’ve always had a thing for topping dominant men. There’s just something so delicious about taking someone who’s caused you so much pain and pleasure and making them squirm. Even nicer, though, is topping other switches. Switches are some of my favorite people to play with, actually, and I’m lucky to be in a scene [...]
Strap-ons: Yet Another Alternate View
Posted in Philosophizing, Sexuality, Smut, tagged anal sex, clients, gender, links, power exchange, strap-on, the me guide on July 24, 2009 | 14 Comments »
So it may come as a surprise to no one that now that I’ve quit the pro-domming business, I’ve been having wicked fantasies about doing terrible, terrible things to lovely boys and men. I mean, it’s like the old joke about the gynecologist, right? Well, sort of. See, I’ve had a thing about Not Doing [...]
Why I Stopped: or, Integration is the Watch Word
Posted in Explainers, Kink and Healing, tagged clients, evolution, feet, professional, the me guide on July 16, 2009 | 11 Comments »
I’ve been thinking a lot about why I stopped doing professional domination per se, and the more I talk about it with friends and loved ones, the clearer it becomes. So I thought I’d talk about it here a bit. When I talk about this, I talk about a number of different reasonings for quitting: [...]
So, now what do I do?
Posted in Alerts, Explainers, tagged evolution, links, professional, the me guide on June 4, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I made an announcement recently that I’m quitting the domming business. So, you might ask, what am I doing now? I’ve added a new permanent page to this blog which describes the services I’m currently providing in some detail. Check it out.
In which I call it quits
Posted in Alerts, Kink and Healing, tagged evolution, professional, the me guide, welcome on May 27, 2009 | 3 Comments »
Dear everyone, I quit. The end. But seriously, folks. This is the part where I let you all know that I’m moving on. I’ve known for a while that I’m done with this work in its current incarnation, and that it’s time for me to do something that’s more in line with my values and [...]
In which I show my true colors
Posted in Media Commentary, tagged fantasies, interrogation, the me guide on January 22, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
[Note: for those of you who watch Lost and haven't yet reached the Season 5 episode "He's Our You" - SPOILER ALERT - READ NO FURTHER!] I’ve mentioned in this space before that I have a thing for interrogation scenes, and that that fact scares me a bit. In fact, the more I’ve gotten into [...]
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