Dear Delilah: I have a very easy safeword with any play partner where safewords would be needed – I say their name. I don’t really say much during sex-or-kink anyhow, so the push of speaking at all plus the push of specifically saying their name makes it a useful safeword, in my opinion. The problem [...]
Posts Tagged ‘safewords’
Monday Advice: Unsafewords
Posted in Advice, tagged communication, how-to, safewords, things we don't talk about on September 21, 2009 | 4 Comments »
Monday Advice: Reluctant Partners
Posted in Advice, tagged communication, dating, how-to, kink psychology, myths, power exchange, relationships, safewords, trampling on April 20, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Today I answer two letters that deal with the question: what happens when one of the partners in a desired BDSM scenario is reluctant for one reason or another? It’s a tricky one, but not unsolvable. I have to say, you are almost a dead ringer for my fiancee. She is also six feet tall, [...]
As promised: Safewords 201 – Some common misconceptions
Posted in Explainers, tagged kink psychology, myths, noncon, safety, safewords on March 27, 2009 | 2 Comments »
My basic informational post about safewords is here. There are a few notions about safewords, however, that I’ve come across and would like to take a moment to dispel. Myth #1: Safewords are only for players who don’t know each other well. While it’s true that in part, the use of safewords is for the [...]
Safewords 101
Posted in Explainers, tagged clients, fantasies, how-to, links, newbies, safety, safewords on March 26, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Seeing as my most recent advice column mentioned safewords in both answers, I figured it was time for me to do my philosophizing about safewords – mostly for future reference. Some of you may be familiar with Jay Wiseman; his SM 101 is a great book for those starting out in BDSM, and his near-paranoia [...]
Monday Advice Time! – The Beginner’s Corner
Posted in Advice, tagged fantasies, how-to, newbies, power exchange, safewords, training, vanilla vs. kinky on March 23, 2009 | 1 Comment »
Hello, all! Today I have two questions from people just starting out; let’s hope that I can give them some good insight and not send them running screaming from all things kink. If you’d like to ask me a question, write me at delilah@dommedelilah.com, or if you’re really brave, comment here! Now: on with your [...]
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