Tuesday Advice: How GGG do I have to be?

All right folks, it’s looking official: Monday Advice is moving to Tuesdays, due to my need to deliver a different article on Mondays. I apologize for missing last week; please have patience as I adjust to changes! All of that said: please, send me questions! I’m running a bit low again. I’ll have one for [...]

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Monday Tuesday Advice

Ever since my alter-ego took on a new writing assignment, I’ve been having some trouble getting the advice out on Mondays. I’m considering changing the day of the week I do it. But for now, I give you Monday Advice on Tuesday. Dear Delilah, My partner N and I have been together for well over [...]

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Monday Advice: Asymmetrical Experience

A few weeks ago, I had a letter from someone who wanted her partner to top her, but she had more experience and wound up topping from below. This week, we have the flip side of that issue. I recently declined to get involved with a close friend of mine. I’m an experienced domme, he’s [...]

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Monday Advice: Even More Topping from Below

Good morning, perverts! I hope everyone had a fabulous holiday weekend; I certainly did, especially since the gods decided to finally stop doing nonconsensual watersports with us. The timing of their reprieve couldn’t have been better, and I spent the weekend walking in the sun, sitting around a fire, eating far too much grilled meat [...]

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Monday Advice: Top Guilt? Sub Shame?

Today’s question is a juicy one, which is just how I like it. Lots of issues to address – so let’s get right to it. Dear Delilah, Can you talk a little about psychological hang-ups around topping? (If that’s the right term–I get top & dominant mixed up.) Here’s the thing. If my partner and [...]

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BDSM and paths to healing

I’ve been loving on Trinity’s blog enough that I’ve been reading the back issues. Yesterday I took a look at this post on the commonalities she draws between some radical feminist camps’ views on BDSM, and the rhetoric of ex-gay movements. In a nutshell: while both are careful to say up-front that they’re not interested [...]

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Monday Advice: Reluctant Partners

Today I answer two letters that deal with the question: what happens when one of the partners in a desired BDSM scenario is reluctant for one reason or another? It’s a tricky one, but not unsolvable. I have to say, you are almost a dead ringer for my fiancee. She is also six feet tall, [...]

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Monday advice! Getting into the biz, and kinky dating ettiquette

It’s already Monday again, and time for your questions! The first is a short and sweet one, but a good topic. How does one get into the pro-domme business? To be honest, I have no idea. All I know is how I got into the pro domme business, if that’s not too flippant an answer. [...]

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Monday, Monday…So Good To Me

It’s advice time again, and I’ve got some nice juicy questions this week. Spring is struggling into being here in Massachusetts, but I do feel the stirrings…so before my mind races off to the horrible things I’d like to be doing to various people, let’s get right to it. Dear Delilah, Any tips on deprogramming [...]

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Play it again, Bill…

Yesterday I had the pleasure of spending the day with one of my favorite clients. Bill (names changed to protect the strange) is a marvelous older gentleman who brings a wealth of intelligence, experience, and humor to our time together, not to mention quite a talent for roleplay and an old-fashioned kind of chivalrous attitude [...]

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