Seeking.

All right folks, so here’s the deal: As you know Bob, I stopped doing professional domination work some time back. I’m mostly on to other things. However. Lately I’ve been having 1. a hankering, and 2. a bit of a financial squeeze. So I’m looking to potentially start seeing some people again. Here’s the catch: [...]

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Don’t throw out the bullwhip with the bathwater

I recently did something I should have done ages ago, which is turn on Google alerts and make it tell me whenever certain key words or phrases are mentioned in the news. Doing this for “BDSM” has garnered some interesting results, not the least of which is a continuation of the trend that Bitchy has [...]

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It never ceases to amaze me

Saw a wonderful, sweet client today. He was terribly nervous, for all the usual reasons: not wanting to get found out, worrying that his desires were strange, not believing that he could broach the topic with his wife, constantly window-shopping pro domme websites. It amazes me how needed the services I’m now offering seem to [...]

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TransformativeKink.com is now live!

Friends, kinksters, countrypeople, Tuesday Advice has been on hiatus for a bit, mainly owing to nobody sending me questions of late. It is my hope that the launch of my new site will begin to remedy that, as well as bring me new opportunities to see people who would benefit from the kind of help [...]

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The one time I did – Part 2

[Part 1 is here.] I’ve taken the cuffs off of him and for a moment we’re equals, dropped lightly out of the scene and into a few seconds of friendly conversation, laced with compassion and care. “I haven’t been to that place in a long time,” he tells me again. “I so needed it.” “I’m [...]

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Why I Stopped: or, Integration is the Watch Word

I’ve been thinking a lot about why I stopped doing professional domination per se, and the more I talk about it with friends and loved ones, the clearer it becomes. So I thought I’d talk about it here a bit. When I talk about this, I talk about a number of different reasonings for quitting: [...]

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Questioning Desires: A place for sissies and worms?

I realize lately that I’ve been feeling an uncomfortable internal conflict over two major lines of thought I’ve been reading in the blogrolls. One: the argument that those of us who are kinky and whole have been having with the radical feminists over whether submission is okay for women (In case you’ve been sleeping: the [...]

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Call Me and I’ll Ignore You For Money

Okay, so I’ve had an account on Niteflirt for some time, but I must admit that I’ve rarely used it. If live domming was frequently uncomfortable for me, phone domming was even worse: without the human element of physical connection, I felt even more objectified than before. And bargaining for more time and thus more [...]

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So, now what do I do?

I made an announcement recently that I’m quitting the domming business. So, you might ask, what am I doing now? I’ve added a new permanent page to this blog which describes the services I’m currently providing in some detail. Check it out.

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In which I call it quits

Dear everyone, I quit. The end. But seriously, folks. This is the part where I let you all know that I’m moving on. I’ve known for a while that I’m done with this work in its current incarnation, and that it’s time for me to do something that’s more in line with my values and [...]

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