Monday Advice: Consensual non-consent

I have a sweetie with whom do a lot of (scorching) “non-consensual” play. We sometimes have difficulties negotiating in scene.
It works if I come out of subspace enough to chirp a campy “Oh no! Not that! Please don’t make me come. That would be too humiliating!” But, I have to tear myself out of [...]

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Rape scene, or fetishized consent? Or, I finally saw Blade Runner

I cannot stop watching this movie.
And I can’t believe I went all of these years without seeing this beautiful, strange, moving and problematic piece of cinema. I finally saw it this weekend – twice in as many days – and I’m ready to watch it again, soaking in it the way I soaked in [...]

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Dorothy, we’re not in Guantanamo anymore…

It has not escaped my notice that I have a hot spot for interrogation scenes. Okay, maybe a wet spot would be more accurate. But there’s a mystery to it for me. While I admit to enjoying the rush of power that comes from hurting someone until they break, the place I [...]

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As promised: Safewords 201 – Some common misconceptions

My basic informational post about safewords is here.
There are a few notions about safewords, however, that I’ve come across and would like to take a moment to dispel.
Myth #1: Safewords are only for players who don’t know each other well.
While it’s true that in part, the use of safewords is for the purpose of communication [...]

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