Tuesday Advice: We’re not always kinky here

I was moved by the letter I got this week, and though it’s not topical in terms of kink, it’s a complex question about alternative relationships that might as well be discussed here as anywhere.
I welcome your questions, not only about kink, but about polyamory, bisexuality, and any other relational issues you think [...]

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Tuesday Advice: The Simplicity Edition

Sometimes I get the tough questions. Sometimes I get the easy ones. I’ll be grateful and consider today a vacation in honor of Thanksgiving week.
Dear Delilah,
Not sure if you’ve answered this or not but someone asked me the other day what kind of kinky things he can do with his gf without leaving [...]

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Monday Advice – Now on Monday!

After several Mondays of post-travel logistics-fail, holidays, and outright laziness, I finally present to you yet another Monday Advice column on – who would have guessed it – Monday.
This week’s question is a little confusing to me.
My would-be girlfriend likes to put people in boxes; I want to buy her a whip, a present, but [...]

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Monday Advice: Moar Ettiquette!

A funny thing about kink and kink advice: most commonly, the questions asked can be answered using the same kind of common-sense, rules of human engagement stuff that you might find in a Miss Manners column. I notice that Dan Savage deals with the same thing: he finds himself giving the same advice over [...]

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Monday Advice: Topping from Below, and Other Tricky Etiquette Matters

I’m answering one question today, since its content seems to have launched me into a complete post about the topic. Given my general long-windedness, this may become a pattern. But please: do continue to send your questions to delilah@dommedelilah.com , or comment here with your kinky queries, and I will answer them in [...]

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Monday advice! Getting into the biz, and kinky dating ettiquette

It’s already Monday again, and time for your questions! The first is a short and sweet one, but a good topic.
How does one get into the pro-domme business?
To be honest, I have no idea. All I know is how I got into the pro domme business, if that’s not too flippant an [...]

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This is just a tribute

Someone asked me recently how I set my rates, and whether it’s appropriate for people to negotiate with me on them. It’s a complicated enough question for me that I thought I’d blog about it, since that seems to be what the cool kids are doing these days.
For various reasons, it’s traditional for dominas [...]

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What Do I Like?

(Revised from my old blog)
One of the most common questions I get asked when people approach me for a session is “what do you like?” (The question is usually followed by the honorific “Mistress,” which I’ll get to.) This question, I’ve found, can have a number of subtexts, from the most innocent to [...]

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