I’m really a gay leather boy

Through Orlando’s Tumblr page, which is already hot enough to keep me distracted, I’ve stumbled across the Leathermen Tumblr page, which might be enough to destroy my productivity forever. Particularly distracting thus far are this image of a top wringing a washcloth (presumably full of his own sweat) over the bound and bruised body of [...]

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Sugar daddies are okay; cougars are toast

So, after my advice the other day, I found this New York Times article, about how Google has begun a ban on advertising for cougar dating sites. Cougars, for those of you who have been asleep, are older women who want to date younger men. Sites like Cougar Life promise to set up older, sexy, [...]

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Tuesday Advice: We’re not always kinky here

I was moved by the letter I got this week, and though it’s not topical in terms of kink, it’s a complex question about alternative relationships that might as well be discussed here as anywhere. I welcome your questions, not only about kink, but about polyamory, bisexuality, and any other relational issues you think I [...]

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Monday Advice (At Last!)

Back from all of my travels and travails, and now it’s time again for Monday Advice! (Shut up, it’s still Monday.) Dear Delilah, After a longish period of hesitation (ok, hiding under the covers) I’ve gotten back into dating and have met a very sweet guy who is also a top. We’ve been playing together [...]

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Monday Advice, One Day Late

I am not actively involved with anybody at this particular juncture in time and I am very shy when in comes to being involved with new partners. My last partner turned out to have been a very skilled and loving Dom. This was not something that I really knew about him prior to being involved [...]

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Monday Advice: Reluctant Partners

Today I answer two letters that deal with the question: what happens when one of the partners in a desired BDSM scenario is reluctant for one reason or another? It’s a tricky one, but not unsolvable. I have to say, you are almost a dead ringer for my fiancee. She is also six feet tall, [...]

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Monday advice! Getting into the biz, and kinky dating ettiquette

It’s already Monday again, and time for your questions! The first is a short and sweet one, but a good topic. How does one get into the pro-domme business? To be honest, I have no idea. All I know is how I got into the pro domme business, if that’s not too flippant an answer. [...]

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