Support the work of an amazing young educator and sexuality warrior

Recently, Maymay, my favorite young sexuality warrior, was attacked by two women named Donna M. Hughes and Margaret Brooks, who are affiliated with the branch of the Salvation Army that deals with sex trafficking. They set about to defame him, name him a pedophile and a generally disgusting human being, and make out his KinkForAll [...]

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Don’t screw with my nine-toed friends.

There must be more I can do to advance the cause of healthy feminist kink, but, as Trinity knows, it’s impossible to ignore the incredible vitriol and anti-kink rhetoric coming from radical feminists like Nine Deuce. I never go to those pages on my own, but I’ve gotten back to the blogrolls lately, and there [...]

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A reminder: Topologies

I’m writing in two places now. Go check out Topologies for the viewpoints of me and two other fab dominant women on what it means to be dominant and female.

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Power, privilege, and missing the point

I just know I’m going to get it for this, but here goes. The ever-erudite and thought-provoking Orlando has got me thinking again. In an ongoing series of posts, he is examining privilege, entitlement, and the concept of slumming in the context of sexual power dynamics. I recommend reading the series (though he charmingly and [...]

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Tuesday Advice: go read this

Tuesday advice languishes again, I’m afraid, and why? Because all y’all don’t have enough problems. That is, I’m out of questions again. Help a sister out, will ya? My advice to you this week, then, is to hie thee to the new blog, Topologies. It’s a spankin’-new space where me and two other awesome dominant [...]

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Questioning Desires: A place for sissies and worms?

I realize lately that I’ve been feeling an uncomfortable internal conflict over two major lines of thought I’ve been reading in the blogrolls. One: the argument that those of us who are kinky and whole have been having with the radical feminists over whether submission is okay for women (In case you’ve been sleeping: the [...]

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Radfem vs. BDSM: (Hopefully) My Final Word on the Matter

Thanks in large part to Trinity, but also to a good friend of mine from grad school, I’ve been spending a lot of time over in some of the radical feminist blogs, particularly in the discussions about BDSM. My friend was hungry to find the intersection of radfem and BDSM online, in intelligent, academic discussions, [...]

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Race Play and freedom

I recently stumbled across Mollena’s blog, and in particular her four-part interview on race play (listen to the woman and read them in order – it’s worth it). Race play is a topic that I’ve mostly avoided, both in my life and my work. I’ve had people ask me to play the white mistress to [...]

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BDSM and paths to healing

I’ve been loving on Trinity’s blog enough that I’ve been reading the back issues. Yesterday I took a look at this post on the commonalities she draws between some radical feminist camps’ views on BDSM, and the rhetoric of ex-gay movements. In a nutshell: while both are careful to say up-front that they’re not interested [...]

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Rage against the people who hate us

I’ve recently stumbled across Trinity’s blog, in particular this post entitled ‘On Not Asking Why.’ The main gist of it is this: Whenever people go about asking women things like “why do you suppose you enjoy getting tied up and beaten,” what they really mean, generally, is “What’s wrong with you anyway,” and at times [...]

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