Tuesday Advice: We’re not always kinky here

I was moved by the letter I got this week, and though it’s not topical in terms of kink, it’s a complex question about alternative relationships that might as well be discussed here as anywhere.
I welcome your questions, not only about kink, but about polyamory, bisexuality, and any other relational issues you think [...]

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Tuesday Advice: The Simplicity Edition

Sometimes I get the tough questions. Sometimes I get the easy ones. I’ll be grateful and consider today a vacation in honor of Thanksgiving week.
Dear Delilah,
Not sure if you’ve answered this or not but someone asked me the other day what kind of kinky things he can do with his gf without leaving [...]

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Tuesday Advice: How GGG do I have to be?

All right folks, it’s looking official: Monday Advice is moving to Tuesdays, due to my need to deliver a different article on Mondays. I apologize for missing last week; please have patience as I adjust to changes!
All of that said: please, send me questions! I’m running a bit low again. I’ll have [...]

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Monday Tuesday Advice

Ever since my alter-ego took on a new writing assignment, I’ve been having some trouble getting the advice out on Mondays. I’m considering changing the day of the week I do it. But for now, I give you Monday Advice on Tuesday.
Dear Delilah,
My partner N and I have been together for well over [...]

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Monday Advice (At Last!)

Back from all of my travels and travails, and now it’s time again for Monday Advice! (Shut up, it’s still Monday.)
Dear Delilah,
After a longish period of hesitation (ok, hiding under the covers) I’ve gotten back into dating and have met a very sweet guy who is also a top. We’ve been playing together and [...]

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Monday Advice: A Sad Day

Oh woe, for lo, I am all out of questions.
The advice column depends on your questions! Comment here, or write to me with your questions, so that the column may resume!

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Monday Advice: Consensual non-consent

I have a sweetie with whom do a lot of (scorching) “non-consensual” play. We sometimes have difficulties negotiating in scene.
It works if I come out of subspace enough to chirp a campy “Oh no! Not that! Please don’t make me come. That would be too humiliating!” But, I have to tear myself out of [...]

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Monday Advice: Unsafewords

Dear Delilah:
I have a very easy safeword with any play partner where safewords would be needed – I say their name. I don’t really say much during sex-or-kink anyhow, so the push of speaking at all plus the push of specifically saying their name makes it a useful safeword, in my opinion.
The problem I’m [...]

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Monday Advice is back – with a review

I’m just about settled into my new place and I couldn’t be happier with its extreme peachyness. I’m sitting here at my quiet desk and finally ready to answer some questions again.
Fucking *phew*.
This week I watched the 2002 movie Secretary with my lover of 10 months, who is the first person with whom I’ve [...]

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Monday Advice: Trickster Followup

Hey, Delilah,
So, just wanted to follow up and say that I’ve moved, and now I’m in my new place unpacking and it’s just so much more awesome than packing was.
So what can you tell me about the process?
Yours,
Sees Evidence of Light, Finally
Dear SELF,
Nice to hear from you again. Here’s the story of [...]

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