Monday Advice: The Evening Edition

All right, people: I see I’m getting a lot of hits. I want to see some questions! Email me at delilah@dommedelilah.com or comment here to ask a question – I promise to protect your anonymity and to let you know when I’ve answered your question.
For today, I’m going to answer a question which [...]

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Radical feminism: how far have we come?

I know, I know, I said I wasn’t going to talk about it anymore. If it’s any consolation, I haven’t been over to the radfem blogs lately, though I’m sure I’ll keep on reading Trinity and then it’ll be all over.
But I just finished reading two essays from the old standby that I’m ashamed [...]

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Damn The Mondays! Tuesday Advice Again

I’m writing this (but not posting it, of course) on a plane heading from Austin to Boston. I’ve been on vacation in Texas for about a week, and while I learned many things here and had bunches of fun, the most important thing I learned was this: Austin is full of blindingly hot waitstaff. [...]

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Radfem vs. BDSM: (Hopefully) My Final Word on the Matter

Thanks in large part to Trinity, but also to a good friend of mine from grad school, I’ve been spending a lot of time over in some of the radical feminist blogs, particularly in the discussions about BDSM. My friend was hungry to find the intersection of radfem and BDSM online, in intelligent, academic [...]

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Monday Advice: Top Guilt? Sub Shame?

Today’s question is a juicy one, which is just how I like it. Lots of issues to address – so let’s get right to it.

Dear Delilah,
Can you talk a little about psychological hang-ups around topping? (If that’s the right term–I get top & dominant mixed up.) Here’s the thing. If my partner and I [...]

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Yes, you heard right – it’s Monday Advice!

Today’s questioner brings up the very valid question of what happens when we start getting all meta on ourselves – or as I like to think of it, human.
I’m a switch, so I enjoy both domming and subbing. I’m also a scatterbrain and an overthinker, which means it’s hard for me to [...]

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So, now what do I do?

I made an announcement recently that I’m quitting the domming business. So, you might ask, what am I doing now?
I’ve added a new permanent page to this blog which describes the services I’m currently providing in some detail.
Check it out.

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Race Play and freedom

I recently stumbled across Mollena’s blog, and in particular her four-part interview on race play (listen to the woman and read them in order – it’s worth it).
Race play is a topic that I’ve mostly avoided, both in my life and my work. I’ve had people ask me to play the white mistress to [...]

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Monday Advice – Now on Monday!

After several Mondays of post-travel logistics-fail, holidays, and outright laziness, I finally present to you yet another Monday Advice column on – who would have guessed it – Monday.
This week’s question is a little confusing to me.
My would-be girlfriend likes to put people in boxes; I want to buy her a whip, a present, but [...]

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